Celebrated Nigerian actress, Lilian Afegbai, has stirred reactions online with her answer to if she is going to add ‘marriage’ to her list of achievements.
The actress, 29, in an interview with The Punch newspaper answered the question and raised dust on the rush to get divorced, lack of sacrifice and effort in contemporary marriages.
Here is what Lilian said;
“I do not look at people’s marriages or people’s lives. I believe in individuality, I believe that people should not look at people’s lives to judge others. It does not make sense. But naturally, I have a fear of marriage. My cold feet have nothing to do with the Internet. I am now learning to draw close to God. I have the mentality that as a Christian, I will enjoy the good of everything. It means that if I get married, by God’s grace, my marriage will work out. But it still does not mean I do not have cold feet. I am at the point where I leave everything to God. I love family, I love kids, I want an amazing husband. But at the end of the day, I want what God wants for me.
I have my cold feet because of the generation we are in now. This generation does not take marriage seriously as before. We don’t understand what marriage is. So, it takes the grace of God to get there. Any little marriage issue this generation wants a divorce but it is only normal to have issues in marriage. If not for the social media age, the settlement will be quicker. I am not saying one cannot leave when one is not happy. Of course, one can leave when it is affecting one’s peace of mind. I will not lose myself and happiness for love. I will only attract people who are comfortable with my lifestyle. However, I can compromise certain things that do not affect my peace for love. Imagine I meet a man who does not like me going out every day. I can reduce my going out for the sake of love but I won’t stop going out totally.”